The division of society
The older we get, the faster the world revolves around us. While primary school children believe that contact restrictions have existed their whole lives, we can only laugh at the fact that we have to sit on an ass cheek - if we belong to the generation that still has an ass in its trousers or in some other gender-neutral garment.
Unfortunately, at the bakery we trust, we don't see the horror behind the waitress's nose-to-mouth coverings when we order a 'negro kiss roll'. So it is also hard to tell whether this is because the expression contains a frowned-upon and possibly prosecutable word or the waitress is simply too young and doesn't know how to cut open a bun and put in sugar foam heaped on wafers and covered in chocolate.
Of course, we wish that the waitress would smile in a friendly way, because we have not yet realised that the colonial era has finally ended since Kaiser Wilhelm and that the word that describes nothing more than the dark colour (originates in French and means black) does not mean a derogatory different treatment of other chocolate colours. Unfortunately, however, we do not see this for the aforementioned reasons.
Only when the person behind the counter becomes restless and neither moves towards the basket of rolls nor turns to the bakery-like desserts in the display should we be required to provide an explanation. Perhaps we preferably point to the desired items and signify with a hand gesture how they are to be put together.
If this is not successful either, it becomes more difficult, as it can be assumed that the person has a marginal command of basic articulation and its interpretation.
One might ask what this person is doing in a shop with a large number of customers, but that is not the point here.
If applicable, the refusal to work could also be related to the fact that adults are not allowed to buy edible goods for subsequent consumption, which are demonstrably favoured by minors (geez, I just hope 'minors' is not politically incorrect to describe the brats). Since such a bakery professional (which I hope is the case, and not a trainee) has learnt not to contradict the clientele and prefers to play dumb rather than talk back and engage in a verbal exchange about comprehension issues, the only thing left to do is to complain and request the managing person to be present.
Of course, this only works if the poor waitress is also employed and does not run the shop herself. But who would provocatively go to a bakery they don't know to complain about their unwillingness to prepare an untempered dessert?
By the way, the definition of chocolate requires that a large part of the mass consists of cocoa, i.e. cocoa butter and fermented and roasted cocoa beans, which inevitably results in a dark colour. A mass consisting of milk fat and sugar is also commonly called (white) chocolate, but the Aztecs and Mayans would turn over in their graves if they had any.
Ultimately, it is nothing more than the division of society into young and inexperienced and old and knowledgeable. Young people are simply not above things, believe that quick consumption is more important than communication and concern for what is happening around us.
In order to learn from experience, one can, on the one hand, gain experience - or simply believe that gender, political correctness, women's quotas and cycle paths are perhaps not as important as clothing that fits the weather and not going hiking with a full bladder.